Their name
Your child is the hero: their name appears in the story and in the narration.
I do not know how to talk to them about death
Sound familiar?My body and my boundaries
That when are they coming back you do not know how to answer...
The star that keeps shining
What you’re living
We have lost someone dear and I do not know how to explain it or how to be with their sadness without scaring them or avoiding it.
The emotional layer
What your child practices
Your little one learns they can keep loving and remembering someone who is gone, like a star that keeps shining
Someone the main character loved is no longer here, and a strange hollow opens inside: sometimes sorrow, sometimes nothing, sometimes the urge to play. A grown-up explains truthfully and plainly what has happened, and teaches them that love does not go out when someone leaves: it stays inside, like a star that keeps shining even when we cannot touch it. They learn that remembering, talking and even laughing is also a way of loving the one who is gone.
How it’s personalized
It’s not a generic story with a name on top. Each answer really changes something in the tale:
Their age (2-3 or 4-6)
The text adapts: shorter, concrete sentences for little ones; a touch more nuance for older kids.
What they love
Their interests (dinosaurs, the sea, trains…) weave into the story so they stay hooked.
The situation you live
You pick the exact moment that triggers the overwhelm at home: the story starts there, not in a generic example.
How they show the feeling
Whether they shout, drop to the floor or shut down: the hero lives it in a similar way, so they recognise themselves.
The situation you live, for example: a loved one has died · a pet has died · they ask what it means to die · they miss someone who is gone · they see the family sad and do not understand.
The phrase they keep
«They are not here now. I still love them. I keep their light.»
How this Moment is built
We do not apply a universal arc. This situation has a specific narrative recipe: Change and belonging.
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Chosen situation
I do not know how to talk to them about death
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Skill
Your little one learns they can keep loving and remembering someone who is gone, like a star that keeps shining
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Need
We read behaviour as a signal and identify the need this recipe may support, without turning that working hypothesis into a diagnosis.
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Tilo recipe
Change and belonging. Names the change truthfully, lets mixed feelings coexist, shows what connection remains and offers a concrete role or ritual. The ending neither erases the loss nor promises that everything will stay the same.
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Shared anchors
The phrase shown in the catalogue is “They are not here now. I still love them. I keep their light.”. The final recipe also fixes the adult phrase, child phrase, main response and home practice.
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Complete Moment
The same recipe coordinates the illustrated story, narration, song, activity and family guide.
Five pieces, one consistent message
The anchors are checked across all five pieces. If one changes, the complete Moment is reviewed so it never gives mixed instructions.
The pedagogical why
Children understand death better with concrete, honest language (not gone to sleep or gone on a trip), which avoids confusion and fear. Child grief is intermittent; rituals and talking about the deceased help process the loss and keep the bond.
Source: The Dougy Center; National Association of School Psychologists (NASP), childhood grief
Grounded in developmental psychology and citable sources. It does not replace a professional’s assessment; if anything worries you, talk to your paediatrician.
What you get
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The illustrated story with their name and your exact situation at the centre of the tale
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The audio story in a single warm voice, to listen to without a screen
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The Moment’s song, made to measure for this same situation
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The guided activity to practise the skill through play, with everyday things
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The family guide: the need underneath, and the exact words for the hard moment
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Practise it through play
⭐ The box of memories
A place for the memories and for every emotion
I do not know how to talk to them about death
Holds the grief with honest language and the idea that the bond and the memories remain, giving permission for every emotion.
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