Their name
Your child is the hero: their name appears in the story and in the narration.
Endless sibling fights
Sound familiar?With others
That exhaustion of refereeing fights from the crack of dawn...
The team of two
What you’re living
They fight over everything, compete for my attention and sometimes end up hurting each other; I spend all day refereeing.
The emotional layer
What your child practices
Your little ones discover that they stop competing when there is a mission that can only be won as a team
Two siblings who compete over everything — who first, who more, who wins — always end up angry and alone. A grown-up offers them a mission neither can win on their own: it only works if they stop being rivals and become a team. At first it is hard to let go of I win, but when they pull it off together they discover something better than beating each other: both winning at the same time.
How it’s personalized
It’s not a generic story with a name on top. Each answer really changes something in the tale:
Their age (2-3 or 4-6)
The text adapts: shorter, concrete sentences for little ones; a touch more nuance for older kids.
What they love
Their interests (dinosaurs, the sea, trains…) weave into the story so they stay hooked.
The situation you live
You pick the exact moment that triggers the overwhelm at home: the story starts there, not in a generic example.
How they show the feeling
Whether they shout, drop to the floor or shut down: the hero lives it in a similar way, so they recognise themselves.
The situation you live, for example: they fight over a toy · they argue about who goes first · they compete for your attention · one steps into the other space · they hurt each other by accident and the fight erupts.
The phrase they keep
«We do not compete. We are a team. We win it together.»
How this Moment is built
We do not apply a universal arc. This situation has a specific narrative recipe: Social repair.
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Chosen situation
Endless sibling fights
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Skill
Your little ones discover that they stop competing when there is a mission that can only be won as a team
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Need
We read behaviour as a signal and identify the need this recipe may support, without turning that working hypothesis into a diagnosis.
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Tilo recipe
Social repair. Protects first, then names the need without labelling the child, rehearses a concrete alternative and repairs through a doable action. The relationship can reconnect without a forced apology, a lecture at the peak or public shame.
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Shared anchors
The phrase shown in the catalogue is “We do not compete. We are a team. We win it together.”. The final recipe also fixes the adult phrase, child phrase, main response and home practice.
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Complete Moment
The same recipe coordinates the illustrated story, narration, song, activity and family guide.
Five pieces, one consistent message
The anchors are checked across all five pieces. If one changes, the complete Moment is reviewed so it never gives mixed instructions.
The pedagogical why
Sibling rivalry decreases when cooperative experiences and shared goals are created, and when the adult does not referee by taking sides. Teaching conflict resolution and team play improves the sibling relationship long term.
Source: Laurie Kramer, sibling cooperation; Faber & Mazlish, Siblings Without Rivalry
Grounded in developmental psychology and citable sources. It does not replace a professional’s assessment; if anything worries you, talk to your paediatrician.
What you get
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The illustrated story with their name and your exact situation at the centre of the tale
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The audio story in a single warm voice, to listen to without a screen
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The Moment’s song, made to measure for this same situation
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The guided activity to practise the skill through play, with everyday things
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The family guide: the need underneath, and the exact words for the hard moment
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Practise it through play
🧩 The mission only won together
A challenge that only works if they stop competing
Endless sibling fights
Turns rivalry into cooperation with challenges only won together, reducing the competition for attention.
This proposal is not for sale yet: Samantha must approve the complete Moment and all six languages.