The I-like-it / I-do-not-like-it game
Rehearse the "I like it / I don't like it" and the "no" that counts
Learning through play
Their body is their castle, and in this game they learn to be the one who decides who comes in. You name kinds of contact — tickles, a big hug, auntie's kiss — and they sort them: I-like-it, I-do-not-like-it. They rehearse the "no" and the "stop" with a firm voice, discover they can change their mind mid-tickle, and name their trusted adults. Prevention made into play, with no fright.
By age: At 2-3, sorting and a respected "stop" at home is enough; at 4-6, add trusted adults and safe/unsafe secrets.
What you’ll need
- ·Nothing: your voices and, if you like, two cards (one green, one red)
Getting ready
None: it is played on the sofa, just as you are.
How it goes, step by step
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Name kinds of contact (tickles, big hug, kiss, being picked up) and let them sort: I-like-it / I-do-not-like-it
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Rehearse the "no" and the "stop" with a firm voice and an open hand, like the king or queen of the castle
- 3
Play at changing their mind: the tickles they liked can stop being liked mid-way — "stop", and it stops
- 4
Make the list of their trusted adults together, with names
- 5
Practise the difference between safe secrets (a surprise that will be told) and unsafe ones (the ones that feel bad)
Safety
At home, their "no" to kisses and tickles is respected ALWAYS — with grandparents too: the game only teaches what daily life confirms.
Your tool for the moment
The hard part is yours: holding their "no" in front of a relative asking for a kiss. Offer alternatives ("shall you blow them a kiss?") and do not call them rude or shy — they are doing exactly what you taught them.
The phrase they keep
«It is my body. I decide. I can say no.»
The pedagogical why
Bodily autonomy — being able to accept or refuse contact, name the body parts and tell safe secrets from unsafe ones — is a pillar of abuse prevention and self-respect. A child should never be forced to show physical affection.
Honestly: This game is preventive education, not a total shield or a detection tool: if something genuinely worries you, turn to professionals.
Source: National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN); consent and body-safety education guidelines
Grounded in developmental psychology and citable sources. It does not replace a professional’s assessment; if anything worries you, talk to your paediatrician.
What you get
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The activity’s audio guide in Tilo’s voice, step by step
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The everyday materials you’ll need — nothing to buy
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The illustrated story and its audio story for this same situation
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The Moment’s song, made to measure
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The family guide: how to hold the play, and the rest of the week, from a calm place
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The story that plants it
My body is my castle
They cannot set boundaries about their body
The I-like-it / I-do-not-like-it game
Rehearse the "I like it / I don't like it" and the "no" that counts
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