Their name
Your child is the hero: their name appears in the story and in the narration.
They cannot set boundaries about their body
Sound familiar?My body and my boundaries
That give auntie a kiss that makes you hesitate...
My body is my castle
What you’re living
I want them to learn that their body is theirs and that they can say no to a kiss or a stroke, but I do not know how to teach it without scaring them.
The emotional layer
What your child practices
Your little one learns that their body is theirs: they can say yes or no to kisses and hugs, and tell a trusted adult
Sometimes the main character is asked for kisses or cuddles they do not feel like, and they do not know they can say no. They discover that their body is like a castle they are king or queen of: they decide who comes in and who does not, and their no counts. They learn to notice when something feels good and when it does not, to say it with their voice and to tell a trusted adult if someone does not respect the door of their castle.
How it’s personalized
It’s not a generic story with a name on top. Each answer really changes something in the tale:
Their age (2-3 or 4-6)
The text adapts: shorter, concrete sentences for little ones; a touch more nuance for older kids.
What they love
Their interests (dinosaurs, the sea, trains…) weave into the story so they stay hooked.
The situation you live
You pick the exact moment that triggers the overwhelm at home: the story starts there, not in a generic example.
How they show the feeling
Whether they shout, drop to the floor or shut down: the hero lives it in a similar way, so they recognise themselves.
The situation you live, for example: a relative demands a kiss or a hug · they do not want tickles and it does not stop · someone invades their space and they do not know what to do · a touch makes them shy or uncomfortable · it is time to talk about private parts.
The phrase they keep
«It is my body. I decide. I can say no.»
How this Moment is built
We do not apply a universal arc. This situation has a specific narrative recipe: Agency and safety.
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Chosen situation
They cannot set boundaries about their body
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Skill
Your little one learns that their body is theirs: they can say yes or no to kisses and hugs, and tell a trusted adult
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Need
We read behaviour as a signal and identify the need this recipe may support, without turning that working hypothesis into a diagnosis.
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Tilo recipe
Agency and safety. Uses plain language, hears a bodily boundary or preference, identifies a safe adult or accommodation and practises one direct phrase. It does not infer a diagnosis from behaviour or aim to normalise, cure or inspire pity.
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Shared anchors
The phrase shown in the catalogue is “It is my body. I decide. I can say no.”. The final recipe also fixes the adult phrase, child phrase, main response and home practice.
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Complete Moment
The same recipe coordinates the illustrated story, narration, song, activity and family guide.
Five pieces, one consistent message
The anchors are checked across all five pieces. If one changes, the complete Moment is reviewed so it never gives mixed instructions.
The pedagogical why
Teaching bodily autonomy — that the child can accept or refuse physical contact, name body parts and tell safe from unsafe secrets — is a pillar of abuse prevention and self-respect. They should never be forced to show physical affection.
Source: National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN); consent and body-safety education guidelines
Grounded in developmental psychology and citable sources. It does not replace a professional’s assessment; if anything worries you, talk to your paediatrician.
What you get
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The illustrated story with their name and your exact situation at the centre of the tale
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The audio story in a single warm voice, to listen to without a screen
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The Moment’s song, made to measure for this same situation
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The guided activity to practise the skill through play, with everyday things
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The family guide: the need underneath, and the exact words for the hard moment
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Practise it through play
🏰 The I-like-it / I-do-not-like-it game
Rehearse the "I like it / I don't like it" and the "no" that counts
They cannot set boundaries about their body
Gives them bodily autonomy and a script to say no and ask for help, the basis of prevention and self-respect.
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